Overly ridiculous push and pull

My drama teacher once let me in on a little secret - most good moments in theatre (and even in life) come down to a push and pull. There is always someone who's acting a "verb" and instinct and they are either trying to get something from someone or they are trying to resist what the other person it trying to do. I distinctly remember working certain acting excercises that involved literally translating that push/pull into scene work. You'd be amazed at how well it worked in bring out some true emotions.

That of course is the theatrical realm. How do we face the push and pull in our everyday lives? I've been pondering that very thing of late. Mostly because I feel like I am having a hard time knowing someone of late. I totally love and respect this person, and it's great. But, I'm often feel like I am trying to pull something from the friendship, and that's not right. The next minute I find myself pushing myself to stay on track and love this person as I am supposed to. And it's driving me crazy. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to do it. I just can't handle the confusion and the back and forth. I just don't know how to get rid of these feelings, because the tough thing is I can't avoid the situation because that would just be taking the easy way out.

This recent internal push/pull is becoming a little ridiculous in my opinion. I just want to feel peaceful.

How do you love a volatile situation?